How to praise others gracefully? Try these methods

Have you ever doubted your EQ , I think EQ is not as high as anyone , When chatting on a certain occasion , Often a mouth on the cold , Or not very likable . If so , I wonder if you have noticed , That is, you don't know how to praise others .

• “ Praise is the sunshine shining on people's hearts . No sunshine , We can't grow .”
  -- Shakespeare

Most of us like to be praised . Carnegie said , One of the weaknesses of human nature is to like others' praise . With the increase of experience , This desire will become deeper and more intense . Praise is for everyone , It's never a bad thing to be rejected , People who are sincerely praised , You may become more motivated because of a compliment , Be more positive .

Your smile of trust 、 A positive look 、 A word of encouragement , It can dispel the shadow of inferiority complex accumulated in the bottom of my heart for others , It can induce the sprout of creative impulse for others .

No wonder someone will say , Praise is the lowest cost , The most rewarding interpersonal magic weapon , It makes sense .

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Since praising others is so good , So how can we learn to praise others ？ Praise is a skill , Need to be reasonable and appropriate , Appropriate and reasonable praise will play an infinite role in promoting your communication . When praising others , Pay attention to the occasion 、 scale 、 object , Just right , Be sincere .

• Make friends with people , Push its elders , Those who taboo their shortcomings , Therefore, it can last for a long time
  -- Confucius

Praise , It is a skill with great driving force , It is also an indispensable social means . And just the right compliment , Is the highest EQ behavior .

Now let's take a look at some scenes ：

• About praising the beauty's figure, good , You might as well try to say so ,“ Have you ever studied bodybuilding ？ In such a good shape ！”
  First of all, we use “ Bodybuilding ” Motion introduction , Generally speaking , Have you ever done bodybuilding , Beyond all doubt , The figure is generally very good . Such praise , It makes people feel comfortable , Pertinent . It's really a good figure , Not pompous . If someone hasn't learned bodybuilding , You boast so much , It makes people feel that her figure is even better than her bodybuilding , My heart is even more happy . Is it better than saying “ You have a good figure , How envious ” The effect is better .

• Boast that girls have good skin , You can do this “ Do you usually pay attention to diet and exercise , Why is your complexion so good .”
  Same thing , First, use diet and exercise as the starting point , Then introduce the key points to boast .

• How to boast that the maternal body recovers quickly , Try this ,“ It doesn't look like someone who has had a baby ”. Never say that ,“ You're just a little fatter than before ”. Although it also means praise , But I always feel uncomfortable if I can't hear it .

• Boasting is good , If you say so “ You speak with passion , It's a waste of talent that you didn't participate in politics ！” Praise each other from the side , Do you feel better .

• Boast that people can chat , You can use that as a model ,“ Talking to you is a pleasure “, Praise each other with immersive experience , Let the other party feel your sincerity more . Compared with such praise , you ” have a ready tongue , Will talk ” Which one do you think is better ？

• It's good to praise people's views “ There are not many people in the industry with unique opinions like you .” Praise others by comparison .

When praising others , We should pay attention to the listener's intention , Sometimes I don't pay attention , Your praise may also embarrass others .

For example, you want to praise a friend for his talent , If you say so ,“ I can't see , You boy , Don't judge a book by its cover ”, It's a little awkward , Although I want to express my recognition of this young man's ability , But on the other hand, it seems to ridicule the young man for his poor appearance , In this way , I lost my original intention of boasting . Unless you are his elder . So praise people , Pay attention to the sense of discretion .

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In the workplace , If subordinates don't do a good job , Some managers tend to be angry , Then I will talk about teaching with strict righteousness , Criticize it .

This is nothing more than hoping that subordinates will be impressed by their mistakes , To correct , Don't make the same mistake again , I wonder if you feel that the more critical your employees are, the more they make mistakes , Some employees will be nervous the next time they encounter the same lesson , Afraid of making mistakes again , As a result, psychological cues were strengthened , Instead, it aggravates the incidence of errors . Employees will have resistance and rebellious psychology in the face of the criticism of managers , Thus disobeying the leadership , Deliberately hostile to you everywhere .

See that subordinates don't do things in place , Although the workplace does not talk about feelings , But sometimes you might as well communicate first , Try to praise a subordinate , The result may be the same as your original intention . They can also be your right and left hands , At your service .

William, a famous American psychologist · James said “ The most ingrained nature of human nature is the desire to be appreciated ”, This is very similar to Maslow's demand theory , The highest demand of human beings is indeed to win respect and realize their own value .

We may have had this experience , Praising a person is actually affirming his value , Let him find the satisfaction of self-identity . This is why we face the same problem , One reason why people always like to listen to good words .

For employees who make mistakes , Praise without criticism , For managers , It not only needs a tolerant mind , We need more wisdom to control the situation . But if you make a mistake, you have to praise ？ It sounds a little incredible .

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So let's see , For employees who make mistakes , We are surprised to give appropriate praise , Affirm part of his work , Let the other party's early prevention collapse in an instant , And then point out the key to the deficiencies in his work . Compared with a storm at the beginning , Is it more effective for employees to stand there and accept the storm .

Just after graduation , I went to a start-up company to do website development , Once I was too careless , Not doing a good job , Was scolded by the leader , He also talked a lot of truth , At that time, I only remember going back to work and doing things well , I didn't hear anything else . Up to now, I only remember being scolded , As for the big truth that the leaders said , I have no impression .

Praising others can let us understand and master the turning point of each other's emotions , Slowly introduce it into the scope of your control , And give yourself the initiative .

In conversation , What we are most afraid to hear from each other is “ however ” The word . Usually “ however ” Before that, there were a lot of supporting articles ,“ however ” Then there is the abyss . because “ however ” What follows , That's the point of the conversation , It will completely deny the beginning of that beautiful prologue , Make the scene embarrassing 、 Unable to clear up . If you are also a manager , You said that so many of your subordinates are not , It's easy to arouse the other party's resistance , And there are many problems , It will make the other party lose focus , It often backfires , You might as well give more affirmation .

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Not all good words can move people , If your praise is unrealistic , It will also give people a feeling of insincerity , Such praise not only fails to achieve the expected effect , On the contrary, it will make people think you are exaggerating , impractical . Pay attention to some principles when praising others .

• sincere . Praise others out of sincerity , The content of praise is the good qualities and characteristics that the other party really has or will have , Don't let others feel that you are insincere , Another picture . For example, people are relatively short , Don't boast about others' burliness any more , Although people's muscles are really good .

  The content of praise should be paid attention to by the other party . Praise people in time . Praising people also pays attention to the right time, place and people , When a person is in a state of depression , Comfort is often better than praise ; And when a person just receives the joy of success , At this time, boast , It's icing on the cake . When people have received too much praise for a successful thing , I'm getting tired of compliments . Don't add another sentence , Silence is the best choice at this time .

Praising others will make others happy , The benign return of the praisee will also make us feel happy , So as to form a virtuous circle of interpersonal relations .