A 42 year old senior executive of a large factory reminds people aged 30-39 that these six habits that make you stronger should be developed as soon as possible

author | Mr.K    edit | Emma

source | Technology leadership (ID：jishulingdaoli)

Shanghai restarts , Started the road of returning to work and production ,K I have also returned to normal work . During the epidemic , Many readers give K Brother leave a message , Show concern and greetings , Give Way K I was deeply moved , Bear in mind , I would like to sincerely say to these friends , thank you .

in the meantime ,K I wrote some popular articles （ Such as 《 People in Shanghai , Be sealed up 22 God , I had an epiphany 5 Personal truth 》, Reading volume of the whole network 200W+）, It has also attracted the attention of many new friends .

For these new friends ,K I would like to introduce myself briefly again ： I am a K Brother , Author of several best-selling books , Founder of we media company , Graduated from a famous university with a master's degree , I have been a senior manager of many large Internet companies , It has some influence in the industry .

I saw K Brother's self narration , Maybe some friends will ask , the K Brother , It's not that big , How come there are so many things that don't seem to fit together “ identity ”？K These identities of elder brother are all true , As for why “ multivariate ”, Actually, it's all thanks “ habit ” Bestowed . Here are a few accompanying K The habit of growing up , Let me share with you , It is a review of one's own growth , Also hope to bring some inspiration to young readers .

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01

Put down your face , To live with dignity

When you put down your face to make money , It means that you are already sensible ; When you earn face with money , It means that you have succeeded ; When you make money with face , It means that you are already a character ; When you're still drinking there 、 brag 、 When you need to face up , It means that you still have Tucson broken ！ That's not unreasonable .

Put down your face , There are two forms , First, dare to rush forward , First, dare to step back .

K Elder brother's family and own conditions are relatively general . At the beginning of your career , The monthly salary is 4000 yuan , Besides paying rent and living expenses , I have to send it to my family every month 1 Thousand yuan . At the time , I am very satisfied with this salary when I just joined the society , So I cherish this job very much . A lot of things that people don't want to do , Be me ; Others are not willing to add classes , I add .

The most impressive thing , It's a temporary meeting of the head of the Department , Let me help him pick up his son from cram school , I have nothing to say , It was the bus and the subway that took the leader's children home . I don't think so , However, they were ridiculed by many colleagues , Some people even make fun of me with half truth , Next time the leader asks you to walk the dog , Whether you go or not ？ For these , I laughed it off , in my opinion , It's the same thing that others throw at me. He won't do it 、 There is no time to do the same work , There's no essential difference , I don't feel anything “ Lose face ” problem .

Now look back , During that time, people ignored “ face ”、 Stupid K Brother , Learned business skills and interpersonal skills , It has laid a solid foundation for my future career . I think it's worth doing 、 What should be done , Do not because of the so-called face 、 Other people's eyes , Fear your head and feet , When it's time to rush, you have to rush out bravely , There will be consideration waiting for you in the future .

If someone looks like K Like brother , Middle age , You have to adapt to another “ Backward ” Put down your face . The waves behind push the waves ahead , No matter how high you are in the workplace 、 No matter how senior you are , There are also cognitive blind spots and short boards of ability , Not always because of face , Put on airs , Suppress this talented person , Squeeze out that expert , An inviolable look .

But to know how to adjust the mentality , Put down your face , Give the back wave a chance , It's time to consult , This reuse reuses , To be convenient with others is to be convenient with oneself , At the same time, it also leaves a way back for itself . Compared with the so-called face , This is the great wisdom of life .

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02

Work with people who are better than yourself

Nobel laureate 、 James, a famous molecular biologist . Watson , In a speech at Tsinghua University, he said ：“ When I was in College , I feel that everyone around me is smarter than him , But many of them are not as good as me , Because I made a lot of right 、 A wise friend , It helped me a lot … Be sure to stay where you can keep up with him , In the social circle of people smarter than you , And never be the smartest person in your social circle .”

This kind of principle of seeing the good and thinking of the good , It's easy for everyone to understand , However, many people may not be able to implement it . Generally speaking , When a person meets someone better than himself , Often subconsciously think that , Such people are more valuable than themselves , In contrast , You will feel very “ weak ”, This leads to a poor sense of self-identity 、 There are all kinds of psychological discomfort .

In order to avoid putting yourself under great pressure or appearing “ plain “, I would rather let myself cooperate happily with more ordinary people , Work together easily . But this pleasure and lightness , But it's hard for you to grow up , It will even make you more mediocre .

about 10 Years ago ,K I worked in an e-commerce Unicorn enterprise company , Be a senior director , With the development of business and the accumulation of experience , Regardless of the e-commerce system architecture 、 Supply chain system , Or project promotion 、 Team management ,K I feel I have learned a lot , Also often participate in some industry forums as sharing guests . Slowly this continuous output 、 The state with few inputs , It makes me feel more and more insecure .

It was not until later , My company was acquired by a giant , Regardless of the corporate culture , Or the staff team , Great changes have taken place , The working mode of giant enterprises 、 The thinking mode has brought a great impact to our original group of enterprise executives . Especially the colleagues sent by the giants , The level is really high , Knowledge and understanding of things , Own vision and pattern , They're all excellent , Let our original group of old ministers appear somewhat dwarfed .

A lot of old management , I can't accept the change in front of me , Run away one after another . But I insisted on staying , Because I figured it out , Working with these great people , It's like paid study , It's a very rare opportunity , Not only can you exercise your skills and abilities , It can also greatly improve my fighting spirit and potential .

The fact proved that , My insistence is right , In front of these excellent new colleagues , I really got a big promotion , Especially in team building and large project management , Let me learn a lot . Regardless of personal ability , It is also the network resources of these excellent colleagues , For my future career development , Played a great help .

Want to fly like an eagle , We must first learn to walk with the eagles . With good people , Don't worry about being overtaken by them , We should also worry about whether we can be included in the list of these excellent people .

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03

There is an effort , It's called relying on yourself

God helps those who help themselves , This is the crystallization of the wisdom of the ancients , It's also K I feel it personally .2019 year ,K Due to the vesting of the company's options in the past , And years of accumulation , The basic financial freedom has been preliminarily realized . I am also a senior manager of a listed company . Both life and work , Not too much pressure . A chance , Listen to friends talking about our media , I think it's quite in line with my love of writing 、 Sharing features , So he began to act , Did your own “ Technology leadership ” official account .

Do self media K I was a complete layman at first . Do not do , Thought everything was easy ; Did , Just know from the core topic , To the most arresting title , And then to the most appropriate length , And the most detailed typesetting , In fact, they all have their own ways .

Remember at the beginning , No entrance , I specially asked a friend to introduce a senior we media person to me . In addition to sharing some basic theories with me , He also said something that impressed me deeply ,“ What I said is not difficult to understand , But it's never that easy to do it , You must tread on the pit you should tread on , Some things must be realized while they are wrong , Still rely on their own exploration , No one can replace …”

At first I thought it was conservative for senior people , Deliberately not telling me some core details . Later, when I was really down to earth , I realized that what he said was very reasonable . But if you don't get the experience and lessons from stepping on the pit yourself , Never really take it seriously , I always want to play smart and challenge , Until I fell into the pit , It's a long memory .

Actually , This is the same reason that the old bird in the workplace looks at the new one . Some mistakes you tell new people not to make , But it usually doesn't work . Young people full of rebellious spirit , You will still know that the pit goes into the pit , After being taught a lesson by example , In order to really open your mind .

People must form the habit of relying on themselves , It doesn't mean that you don't have to rely on the power of others , Don't learn from the indirect experience of others , But on some joint points “ Ren Du's two veins ”, We must get through by ourselves . It's like Xiaobai learning photography , Just listen to people say the aperture 、 Press the shutter 、 Triangle composition 、 Golden ratio composition , You can't be a good photographer .

It's on paper , We must know that we must do it , Do anything , In the final analysis, there must be “ On their own ” State of mind .

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04

Efficient and terrible diligence

Ma Yun was asked in an interview in his early years , When is the happiest time of the day ？ His answer ： When you sleep . Because entrepreneurship requires diligence , There is trouble every day , Or I can solve it , Or someone else will solve it , Someone will solve it , Whoever solves this problem is his chance .”

K I deeply agree with this , Not to mention other, more complex startups ,K I was working at the same time , Keep outputting , Be a quality we media , Let me deeply experience this feeling . In the middle let K There are two busiest stages in my life , First, the initial stage , The other is the outbreak period .

At the beginning , As mentioned above , Many things have to be explored by ourselves .K I can only do my job well , Make time for rest and sleep , To conceive 、 Topic selection 、 Eg. . Everything comes to him who waits , The account slowly began to improve , More and more people are paying attention . I can't use it from front to back 4 months , The number of fans began to break ten thousand . And in these months , I am mostly in the early morning 2 I don't go to bed until about .

After the official account enters the stable period ,K I'm selecting materials 、 I have more and more experience in writing , One after another, I wrote that the reading volume of the whole network exceeded 150w+ Of 《 Ali completely demolished the middle stage 》 Wait for a few big hits , And was roared by the tiger /36 krypton / Note man / Porridge zuoro /CSDN/51CTO/ Peking University and other well-known media reprinted . meanwhile , The number of fans has also exploded , Soon break through 5W mark .

in the meantime , Many businesses take the initiative to come to the door , Negotiate business cooperation . Just at that stage , The company has an important project to be delivered , Many things about we media can only continue “ Squeeze ” My other time .K I wrote many times in the early morning 4、5 spot , Then go to work directly after washing . Also in the morning 7 It starts at o'clock , Make an appointment at the breakfast bar 3 Home partners , Having breakfast while negotiating business …

Don't get me wrong ,K I'm not pretending here , I have borne the hardships of planting trees , The bitter harvest , Do you still complain ？ What I want to say is , Whether it's planting trees , Or harvest , We ordinary people want to do something , You must have the courage to go out , You should have a good morning and a bad night 、 Diligent and pragmatic spirit . No background blessing , No capital gains , Sweat blessing may be the only way for us to succeed “ shortcut ”.

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05

Focus on your areas of strength

There is a saying that everyone has heard ： Choice is more important than effort . This is not to deny efforts , It highlights the importance of choice . And this abstract “ choice ”, How to understand it concretely ？K My view is ： Focus on advantages , Focus on your strengths , You can migrate , Do not move blindly , Is a person's wisest choice .

K I started as we media , The chosen field is what you are good at and familiar with IT、 In the workplace .K I have been engaged in IT industry , I have been doing management work for many years . Related contents and materials , A lot has been stored in the brain , Just activate wake-up when necessary . This is also K Even if the output continues for many years , But it will not mean nothing 、 Root causes of patchwork .

Now? K Brother and K Brother's we media have a clear “ Self label ”, Not only is it easier to be found by users with relevant preferences , It is also easier to talk about business with partners in some vertical fields . This is it. K I have always insisted on focusing on my advantages , The virtuous circle created .

In the modern world , Both enterprises and individuals should pay more attention to their own advantages , Put a clear and professional label on yourself , Make yourself more recognizable , More effectively highlight advantages , So as to reach the user first .

Now many enterprises, including industry giants , Are downsizing and downsizing , Most of the cut are marginal departments that have nothing to do with the main business , Most of those who are laid off have no obvious personal advantages 、 Employees with unclear personal labels . These all illustrate the advantages of focus from the side 、 The importance of highlighting advantages .

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06

It's hard to do the right thing

In this world , difficult , It often represents higher threshold and higher value ; And right , It represents the rationality of choosing the road and direction . So called doing “ Hard and right things ”, In fact, it is impossible for ordinary people to do , But once it is done, there will be a higher return . With K Take brother for example , up to now K What I did most “ Difficult and correct ” What happened , When the work goes well , We started our media , Open your own workplace B plan , And overcome difficulties all the way , Success persists until now .

Now ,K I have more than 100000 fans , He is also a consultant of many enterprises , We media company was also established , Formed its own business closed loop .

These little achievements , Is in the extremely busy work and life , Make time for 、 overcome difficulties , Let your career B The plan developed into what it is today ,K I am still very satisfied and gratified .

stay K In my opinion , Have your own workplace B plan , It's something everyone in the workplace should try “ Hard and right things ”. Do such a thing , It will definitely make you more busy , Lose more time to enjoy life , There is also great uncertainty about the results .

But look at the current situation after the outbreak , layoffs 、 A pay cut 、 Bankrupt enterprises abound . If you had laid it out earlier , Let oneself have a new grasp beyond the main business , Perhaps in the face of difficult times , It will be much more leisurely . A lot of things , The beginning means half the success . Put the fear of difficult times , Use it to crave results , This may make you more decisive 、 Firmer .

Above is K My brother insisted for a long time , A few habits that you think are helpful , There is no empty talk , It's all from the bottom of my heart , I hope I can bring some reference to my friends , That's it .

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