The ancients said ： Sit still and think about yourself , Don't talk about people .
When a person has the heart to reflect on himself , You won't focus on what you say about others .
Also cultivate and precipitate your own state of mind , Improve your moral character and accomplishment , discipline , Be kind to others .
People alive , No one is perfect . Su Shi, a great writer, once wrote ：“ I don't know the truth , Only the body in this mountain .”
A wise man
In this world , Everyone wants to be a smart man .
You can communicate with ease , Even if you don't suffer losses, you won't offend others , Live free and easy .
But what can I do to become a smart man ？
First of all, you should have a steelyard in your heart , Know what you can't do , What can't be said , Know the minimum truth about how to behave .
In social life , Everyone wants to be a smart person , But not everyone knows how to make good use of their intelligence .
Because the best use of wisdom requires wisdom , Not intelligence itself .
The greatest wisdom for a wise man , There are some things you can't manage , Some words can't be said , I can't help you .
Three don't care ： Whatever you do 、 No matter what 、 Regardless of family matters .
Four don't say ： Don't speak ill 、 Don't say crazy things 、 Don't complain 、 No empty talk .
Five don't help ： To be brave is not to help 、 Cross - border help cannot help 、 The ungrateful cannot help 、 Help others but not the poor 、 Beyond the bottom line, don't help .
One 、 Three don't care
1.1 Regardless of other people's business
I have seen such a joke ：
I waited for the bus at the bus stop yesterday , I saw a child eating a big bag of chocolates , After a while, I ate half a bag .
I said something out of kindness ： Children should not eat too much chocolate , If you eat too much, you will get sick .
The child said to me ： My grandfather this year 103 Year old .
I said, ： Because eating chocolate ？
Children say ： No , Because he never cares about anything .
The ending of the story makes people laugh , But it is the real truth of life .
A lot of people , Is a restless master , I want to take care of everything .
Today, East parents , The western family will be short tomorrow , Whose daughter-in-law doesn't wash the dishes ……
Do not play an active role , It's annoying , Not to be seen by others .
No one likes to be told what to do , No matter what your starting point is , Taking too much control is already violating the boundaries of others .
The ancients said ： Sit still and think about yourself , Don't talk about people .
All my life , Take care of yourself , Do your , It's not easy .
Less boring curiosity , Don't meddle in other people's business , Longevity .
Whatever you do ： In the life , To be a man, we must have a standard . Make a matter of discretion , Will be liked and loved by everyone . Mind your friends' business , Respect others' choices , To a certain extent, this will also provide greater development space for friendship . At the same time, friends are respected , I will also thank you from my heart for your support .
Regardless of other people's business .
1） First , Strangers have nothing to do with us , More is better than less .
2） secondly , Meddle excessively in the affairs of outsiders , It will also bring us unnecessary trouble . Stay away from other people's lives , It is also an opportunity for others to show themselves .
3） Last , Mind your relatives' business . Although we are related by blood , But intimacy also needs a space , Only in this way can we ensure a harmonious relationship .
1.2 Regardless of other people's feelings
In the life , We will inevitably meet friends because of emotional problems , Seek comfort .
Case one ： You stand on your friend's side , Scold the scum man / Cinderella , Two days later, they made up again .
After two people tell their true feelings , Say you can't make friends like this .
then , Friends break up with you ！
The second case ： You stand on your friend's side , Scold the scum man / Cinderella , My friend broke up with you .
But my friend's life has not changed for the better , So I miss the past and complain about you , It was all your fault .
then , Friends still break up with you ！
You see , Is it that Leide is scorched outside and tender inside , There are no people inside and outside .
Actually , No matter whether it's peace or division , It is a thankless thing for others .
What's more? , Life on earth , Each has his own practice , Each has his own marriage .
Other people's feelings , Don't mix it if you can ……
Friends just want your comfort , As for opening or closing , They know for themselves .
No matter what ： As the saying goes , Between husband and wife , Fight at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed . And the emotional relationship between two people is not something that an outsider can understand . Opening and closing is also a matter between two people , Therefore, as middlemen, we should not get involved in it .
1.3 Regardless of other people's housework
Last year, there was a noisy news , An old sick mother in Jiangsu Province , To media reporters , He said he wanted to see his son for the last time before he left .
Their son ？1999 After graduation in, I went abroad ,20 I haven't heard from you for years .
And then , In the media communication and the spread of netizens , My son found , But he just passed the word through a middleman “ Stop looking ”.
When asked if he would come back , He only said 7 A word ：“ It's hard for an honest official to break the housework .”
thus , Many netizens said , I don't know the inside story , It's inconvenient to evaluate .
Yeah , Other people's housework is a mess , It's hard to tell reason from reason , Honest officials are hard to judge , Let alone outsiders .
Besides , The so-called family affairs , It's a family affair , It is inconvenient for outsiders to interfere .
Your own household chores have not been settled yet , Never mind other people's .
Regardless of family matters ： A family lives together , There will inevitably be some bumps . But because there is a close blood relationship , So anyway , In the end, they will be reconciled . Home is not a reasonable place , There is no way for outsiders to interfere .
Summary ： The way of life , It has always been learning . And don't meddle in other people's business , Circumstances , family matter , To some extent, they have left enough space for each other , Let everyone be in a very comfortable state . Instead of spending your time dealing with other people's affairs , It is better to make full use of the time , Make yourself better .
Two 、 There are four things not to say
2.1 Don't say angry words to your face
People are not saints , It's normal to feel a little emotional , Contradictions and quarrels are also common .
But some say it out , There is no room for recovery .
Writer Shi Tiesheng has been paralyzed since his legs , Temper becomes moody , I often take my anger out on my mother .
But even so , Mother still takes good care of him , Keep an eye on his face .
Then my mother died , Shi Tiesheng always repents when he mentions his mother , But nothing can go back to the past .
When people are angry , It's easy to say hurtful things , But the speaker has no intention , The listener has a heart , Angry words fall into other people's ears , Maybe it means something else .
Angry words to friends , Easy to let feelings dissipate ; Talking angrily to relatives , It's easy to make your lover cold ; Say angry words to villains , It's easy to lower your level .
More anger , You should also control your mouth , Slow down , Be quiet .
Don't talk when angry , Is the most rational .
Don't say crazy things ： Someone outside the person , behind . We must have an understanding of our abilities , Don't do anything beyond your ability . And don't say crazy things , An arrogant person , There was no good result in the end , Be modest , Modesty makes one progress , Pride makes one fall behind .
2.3 Don't speak ill of yourself
Be laughed at , Everyone has experienced . Even Luo Yonghao, the once hegemonic President , Also can not avoid being ridiculed .
From the first live broadcast to the sea , He was ridiculed by many netizens .
“ Lao Luo also began to make money on his knees .”
“ LuoYongHao, the seller , It's like a dog ！”
But he doesn't care , And frankly, the live broadcast is to pay off the debt .
We all know what happened later , Lao Luo, who is desperate to pay his debts , In less than a year 6 Billion debt has been paid off 4 Billion , The rest is expected to be paid off within a year .
And those who laughed at him ？ Probably still carrying bricks in a corner .
In this world , It is always the easiest thing to see others' jokes .
But many things fall on me , You don't have to do better than others , Especially when you stand there and watch others laugh , Is really ridiculous .
Don't laugh at others' temporary disappointments , You're just lucky .
Life is a marathon , Can laugh to the last , It's the winner .
Don't speak ill ： There should be some bottom lines in life , To be an honest man , It is also immoral to speak ill of others behind their backs . To be a man, you should leave a trace of virtue for yourself , Don't put yourself at a dead end , Speak ill of others behind their backs , If others find out , It will have an indelible impact on interpersonal relationships .
2.2 People don't talk big
What is big talk ？ It is beyond my ability , Impossible ; Beautiful to say , But the action will be greatly reduced .
Especially those who are less powerful , The more you like to talk big .
Because to be honest , People who often say such things , Like to be brave , Hope to be appreciated by others , Show your status .
Dinner , I often meet such people .
On national affairs , Down to the trivial , There seems to be nothing he doesn't know , To express one's own unique ideas in a voluble way .
But you have to ask him what to do , I can't explain why , Or you may not be able to finish the task after you take it .
Their nature may not be bad , But it's been a long time , It will give people the impression that they are not practical , If you lose trust, you will lose your heart .
Actually , The world's big , There are many things we don't know , What can't be done .
Why do you want to be fat , Boast and show off , It's better to be an ordinary person , Be down to earth and do things .
First concern , Improve your ability circle , Only when the opportunity comes can we seize it , Then further expand your circle of attention .
No empty talk ： You should also say something valuable , Rather than empty talk , It's better to do something meaningful . Anyone can talk big , But someone always knows the truth , And empty talk is not good for us . There is time to brag , It's better to enrich your knowledge , Improve your ability .
2.4 Don't complain about anything
Habitual complaints , It is a common fault of everyone .
Complain about life , Complain that your partner is not considerate , I always feel that fate is against me ……
For example, my colleague Lao Wang , Lao Wang is good at everything , The only bad thing is that I like pouring bitter water .
The project is stuck , I think it's because others don't cooperate ; No subsidies , I feel that I have been treated unfairly .
A long time , Everyone in the company knows , The leader thinks his psychological endurance is not enough , Find an excuse to dismiss him .
Poor old Wang ？ Maybe , But no one likes to complain 、 People who are full of negative energy .
It's about life , Nine times out of ten, I don't like it , But I only complain , Is the lowest level of practice .
Like Sanmao said ：“ Complaining once in a while may be the catharsis of some emotion , You can't help it . But habitually complaining without seeking change , They are not smart people .”
and , If a person often complains and sighs , Will not only consume their own internal magnetic field , Life is getting worse .
Have the skill to complain , It is better to accept what cannot be changed , Try to change what can be changed .
The pattern is big , The realm is high , To face everything in life calmly .
3、 ... and 、 Five don't help
3.1 To be brave is not to help
If someone asks you for help , But it is beyond my ability , It's better for everyone to refuse such a busy job . As the saying goes , Beat up your face to look fat . Such behavior to please others , But let oneself lose the original intention , It's very bad . If the relationship between two people is good , So, too Help within your ability , Do everything according to your ability .
3.2 Cross - border help cannot help
Everyone has his own discretion , If the other person's request for help goes beyond the limit , For example, it is illegal , Involving other people's private affairs, etc , All these things should be rejected . Although you are out of kindness , But the final consequences are not something you can afford .
3.3 The ungrateful cannot help
Born a , We must be kind . No matter how much others help us , We must know gratitude from our hearts . Between people , If someone It's love to help you , It's my duty not to help . Don't take others' help , Take it for granted . So before you help , We should also see the character and essence of the other party , Instead of the story of Mr. Dongguo and the wolf .
3.4 Help others but not the poor
There is an old saying that goes well , Help the poor . If a person is in trouble , You can help him , It is also right to lend a helping hand at this time . But if a person is poor , And do not strive for progress , You can't help him solve the problem .
3.5 Beyond the bottom line, don't help
People should have their own bottom line , No matter what kind of friend you are, you need to know the bottom line , Don't do anything illegal or criminal , Don't let help get in the way of yourself . We must always believe in one word , The right way in the world is the vicissitudes of life , We must help others or improve ourselves in a formal way .
summary
Three don't care 、 Four don't say 、 Five don't help , The ancient people's way of dealing with the world . In fact, it is ： Don't do anything beyond your ability , No matter what is beyond your ability , It's important to be yourself , No matter what happens , Please follow your own heart , Self-motivated forward .
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