Reading notes of Mr. toad going to see a psychologist

2022 year 6 month 28 Read the number , This is the book in the girlfriend's own book list , After she bought it, she found that it was also one of the books on my list , I borrowed it from her . She likes reading, too , Always read a book because of one sentence . The reason why she bought this book is also because of a sentence in this book “ Do you think I'll get better ？”.

This book is because toad made a mistake , But was accused by friends around , And the influence of the native family , Cause Mr. toad to be depressed , Then Mr. toad with the help of his friends , Open the 10 The process of psychological consultation , With weekly counseling , Our readers have gradually entered the world of Mr. toad and psychological counselor , Curing the toad also taught us the truth .

The structure of the whole book , It's roughly divided into 3 A hierarchical , The first chapter is about children's self-state , Second, parents' self-state , The third is the adult self state . Finally here 3 On the basis of three levels “ Life coordinates ” The concept of .

Each of the three levels has its own necessity , But in terms of importance , Only in an adult state , We will learn , Keep improving yourself , A child's state is full of emotions , Parents are busy criticizing education , Only in the adult state can we live in the present . Learning these three states is not to label anyone , Just to better understand our own behavior , When you meet someone, you always like to scold others , You know what state he is in , Or she tried to be a clown to please others , You know she's been living in her childhood behavior , Never grown up , You can even predict whether this person's life will be happy or miserable .

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Mr. toad asked ： Do you think I'll get better ？

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Psychologist Heron ： Mr. toad , If I don't believe in everyone's ability to get better , I don't i I can do this job . I can't guarantee that things will get better , But what I can promise is , I will give my full attention to , I also hope that you are devoted to the consultation . If we can all work together like this , You can meet positive results . But at the end of the day , It all depends on you .

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What must be done , Only by himself can he complete .

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Asked the toad ：“ It's been a long time for me , If there is self punishment , I don't want to go on like that , I want to be happy , What should I do , Can you help me? ？”

“ It may be cruel to say so , Toad , The one who can help you is yourself , It's just you . There are many questions you need to ask yourself . For example, can you stop self-criticism ？ Can you be nice to yourself ？ Maybe , The most important question is , Can you start loving yourself ？”.

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The psychologist Heron said ： Angry people always wear a scowl 、 A gloomy look , And it was strangely quiet . Toad , in my opinion ,“ Adaptive children ” In all your actions . Anger is the best example of how to dilute anger with time .

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Once we decide which attitudes and views to use in childhood , We will always stick to our choices for the rest of our lives . These views and attitudes , Become the underlying architecture of our existence .

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When you have fear , Anxious thoughts will run into your consciousness , You can't relax .

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The toad said ： Today I called myself 9 branch , In fact, you can play 10 branch , But I want to leave some room for the future , Maybe things will get better .