Some suggestions for programmers to leave single

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Programmers go home for the new year , The most worrying thing is not to be afraid of relatives asking how much they earn , It is ： There is no object ？

Although every day “ object-oriented programming ”, often new An object , however ：

Now all 2019 Year of , Chinese people talk about empty years ,90 People born in , already 30 Year old ！

In my own eyes , Think 30 Still young , But ：

In the eyes of elders , Looking for a object More than anything ：

In feudal society , Some Dynasty laws stipulate ： If you don't marry at the legal age of marriage, you will be punished or Be in jail Of .

Current situation and suggestions

Programmers belong to high IQ groups , The income is higher than that of most industries , And the appearance value is not low , however , The single rate is very high . What's going on? ？

Let's analyze the reasons ：

1. Work is busy , The scope of making friends is narrow

High working pressure , Overtime , Less time to fall in love . As for overtime , We're not going to talk about it here , Work overtime and go home , It's getting late , There is no time to fall in love ！

The scope of making friends is very narrow , Basically, I can only meet male programmers during working hours , Occasionally, there are a few female programmers , It is also the owner of famous flowers , It's too late .

Suggest ： Work is busy , But you still have to care about the big things in your life ！ Take part in more gatherings of friends and classmates in your spare time , More opportunities to meet the opposite sex .

Blind date is a good way , It's best to introduce the elderly , They should be considerate .

Know yourself and your enemy in a hundred battles , Maybe you don't know what you look like in others' eyes , It is suggested to look at the object introduced by others , You are just like that in others' eyes .

Important note ： Don't refuse others' introductions easily , This will give people a bad impression , Refused once , Maybe others will not introduce you .

2. Do not pay attention to external image

Programmers always dress casually , It is generally believed that the grade is not high enough , Daily clothes are simply a for loop ：

Take a negative example ： Once upon a time, a young man from Ali wore special shoes to go on a blind date , I was rejected by my sister , Only one reason ： Wear special shoes , Very informal ！

The young man works as a senior R & D Engineer in Alibaba , The annual salary of this level is generally tens of millions , This incident also reflects the sadness of the current living situation of programmers , High salary but no time to spend , Overtime is so serious that there is no time to date , The social circle is narrow, and you can only get to know girls through blind dates , Wearing special shoes also indirectly reflects that programmers do not pay enough attention to dating , After all, dating is still a very important thing ！ Girls don't know you , First of all, it gives others a bad first impression ！

Suggest ： Go on dates and blind dates , Don't dress too casually , It doesn't matter to you , Girls think you don't respect her enough , The impression is greatly discounted .

You don't need to wear a famous brand , But dress appropriately , Be sure to make people feel that you attach great importance to this date .

3. Weak communication ability with the opposite sex

put questions to ： Which of the following figures would programmers prefer to communicate with ：（ Figure 1 ： Senior Programmer , Figure 2 ： Pretty girl ）

The answer is unexpected ： Programmers prefer to chat with figure 1 , At least there are common topics , If you chat with figure 2 , It will soon reveal the fact that you are not good at communicating with the opposite sex .

Look at typical programmer chat records ：

• Excessive initiative

It's no problem for boys to take the initiative .

but , Please note that , yes ,“ One o'clock ”.

• mistime one 's remarks

I know you're really great , Very hard .

But remember , Machine learning does not appeal to girls .

The front end is not , The algorithm is not ,Java/C++ Neither .

Suggest ：

Many programmers chat with girls , Soon there will be no topic .

Actually , Chatting with girls also requires some skills , Otherwise, embarrass yourself and make girls dislike you ：

1、 You can please girls in chat , It will reduce the girls' impression of you ;

2、 At the beginning of the chat, I showed a strong preference for girls , Most girls will be scared away by you ;

3、 I haven't talked with others yet , You need photos and phone , Is a very impolite behavior ;

4、 Don't rush to chat , The number is equivalent to that of girls , Just reply at a similar speed ;

5、 Girls are emotional animals , Don't tell the truth in the chat 、 Be reasonable 、 Occupy the IQ highland ;

6、 Complaining is the patent of girls , Boys still need more positive energy ;

7、 If girls don't like you , Confession 99% Will fail , Confession is the horn of victory , Not the bugle of charge ;

8、 Praise should use your brain , Refuse the rotten sea ;

9、 The girl said she went to take a bath , If you haven't been back in an hour , That is, people don't want to talk to you ;

10、 Don't bombard information , The girl didn't reply to you , Then wait for her to come back , Don't send continuous messages to girls 3 More than messages .

The last point is very important , Bear in mind ： Men who reason with girls , There's something wrong with IQ .

Other suggestions ：

• First of all, we should improve our self-cultivation , Read more books , Watch classic movies , Such as Douban score TOP100 In the movie , After reading it, you can definitely improve your self-cultivation and emotional intelligence .
• Attend more parties , Say less , Listen to more , See what others are talking about , Know the current trend .
• Occasionally go shopping , No shopping , Look at what is popular now , In this way, sometimes we can talk about some common topics .
• People who can't find an object have a common characteristic ： I can't leave my computer and mobile phone after work , Object is not new Coming out , You need to find it .
• Don't turn a blind eye like the figure below , Refuse indifference ：



• summary ：
  This paper analyzes the reasons why programmers are single from several aspects , And some suggestions are given .
  Last , Wish programmers 2019 Find someone every year .

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