Talking about Festinger effect

  Festinger effect
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There is... In life 10% Things are beyond our control , And the other 90% But we can control it .

To better illustrate this effect , Festinger gives a classic example .

When kastin got up and washed in the morning , Put your high-end watch by the washing table , The wife is afraid of getting wet , Just take it and put it on the table . When the son gets up and goes to the table to get bread , Accidentally hit the watch on the ground and broke it .

Castin loves watches , I beat my son's ass . Then he scolded his wife with a black face . The wife is not convinced , I am afraid that water will wet my watch . Kastin said his watch was waterproof . So they quarreled violently . In a fit of pique, castin didn't have breakfast , I drove directly to the company , When I was about to arrive at the company, I suddenly remembered that I forgot to take my briefcase , And immediately turned back home .

But there was no one at home , My wife went to work , My son went to school , The kastin key was left in the briefcase , He can't get in , I had to call my wife for the key .

The wife hurried home in a hurry , Knocked over a roadside fruit stall , The stall owner held her back , Ask her to compensate , She had to lose a sum of money to get rid of .

After getting the briefcase , Castin is late 15 minute , He was severely criticized by his boss , Castin was in a very bad mood . Before going off work, another small matter happened , A quarrel with a colleague .

The wife was also deducted the full attendance award of the current month for leaving early , My son played baseball that day , It was expected to win the championship , But because the mood is not good, the play is not good , The first set was eliminated .

Bring us thinking

In this case , A broken watch is 10%, The next series of things are 90%, It is the lack of a good grasp that finally makes this day very annoying .

Just imagine , Kastin is there 10% After generation , If you change your reaction . such as , He comforted his son ：“ It doesn't matter , son , It's ok if the watch is broken , I'll just have it repaired .” So the son is happy , The wife is happy, too , He is in a good mood , Then the next thing will not happen .

so , You can't control the 10％, But the rest can be determined by your mentality and behavior 90％.

So how to control the remaining 90% Well ？

in real life , There are always such examples .
It's like two people in the desert , The same is the remaining half of the water , A man said I had only half a bottle of water , Another person will say I have half a bottle of water , The person who sees that he has half a bottle of water may use the half bottle of water to continue to find the water source, and another person may wait to die .

This is all a matter of mentality . Since we can't stop the front 10% Happen , Why not go there , Grasp the following 90% Well , It only takes a minute to change your mind , But this minute can change your whole day , Why not? Put away the full text