How to prepare for a moving wedding

3 Take wedding photos at the end of the month , Then start the formal preparation ,5 month 1 They began to receive guests on the th ,5 month 2 A dinner party for the relatives of both parties before marriage ,5 month 3 The most important day of the wedding .

To this day （6 month 25 Number ）, Just finished uploading the wedding video , The whole wedding came to a successful conclusion .

I asked my relatives and friends who attended the wedding what they thought of the wedding , Their answers are all “ This is a very touching wedding ”.

The tears in their eyes from the wedding day , I can also know , It's not polite .

Today is just the weekend , Record the wedding process , And the details of our preparations .

This also means the second issue, which has been delayed for a long time newsletter Finally, I started to write .（ The wedding is over , I will try my best to ensure the update in the future ）

Overcoming fear of marriage

Before going into the details , First, let's talk about what I think is very important ： Overcome your fear of marriage .

Do that , You need to figure out two things .

The first question is whether she is the most suitable partner for you .

Everyone has his own judgment on this problem , Do you like her enough , Can you appreciate her merits , Can you accept her shortcomings , Is she a person who practices lifelong learning .

In addition to these , There is another important point for me , Whether she supports your deepest dream .

If one day you want to pursue your dream , Whether she would like to run around with you , Love and not love , Only in this moment can it be displayed incisively and vividly .

The second question is whether you have enough confidence in your future .

If five years ago , Even three years ago , If I am not afraid of marriage , I don't believe it myself .

When I first came out of society , Is very confused , Not just you and me , The vast majority of college students are like this .

Even after many years , Many people can't find a cure for their confusion .

The name of the official account was changed to Bright brother in the workplace , In fact, I just want to write about how I get rid of confusion step by step .

Later, I came into contact with the encryption industry , So I devoted myself to this industry , The great ideal of helping college students get rid of confusion has been put aside .

If you are single, you are confused , Lack of confidence , Not sure about the future .

Plus a partner , And maybe add a child later , How can you have enough confidence ？

What does confidence come from ？ From your life experience .

As for how to enhance confidence in the future , honestly , I have no good solution for you .

I can only advise you to go out more , Look at the world more , Learn about different people's lifestyles , Recognize your own commonness , And attend more weddings .

I want to know what kind of person I want to be in my life , What do you want to do? .

Wang Yangming pointed to his heart when he was dying “ This heart is bright , What do you say ”, I hope you can say it now .

But I also know , We were born from Prussian education , In essence, it is difficult to think through these problems .

You see , I am very contradictory , Both ideal , Very realistic . But I don't think there's any maladjustment .

From my own experience , The quickest way to understand this is to go to sendamoto for a visit “ diving ”.

Clear water bottoms out 20 Meters of green sea level , Free fall from the boat , It's more effective if you can't swim , Can think more quickly .

Of course, this is my own life-threatening bad idea . The simple way is to assume that you are at the end of your life , Figure out what you think you must achieve in this life .

Man , Once you have a thorough understanding , Really invincible .

The preparation of a touching wedding

If you're sure , You are not afraid of marriage , Then I met the right person and wanted to get married , Let's start preparing .

Reserve more time , At least 2 Months , Half a year should be appropriate .

But preparing for a wedding is also methodological , The whole preparatory process took quite a long time , Many things need to be confirmed over and over again , Compare again and again .

It is important to keep a clear and organized record and track .

Here's what I use notion A complete wedding plan , The corresponding template is then notion You can find it in the template library , It can be customized on demand .

wedding-planning

List information , Naturally, it can be recorded in tables , For example, the dinner list , Guest list, etc .

Take the guest list as an example , It will probably contain these information ： full name , Whether to participate in , Number of adults , Number of children , Arrival date , Whether to stay in a hotel , layout of a house or an apartment , remarks .

Probably counted , At least 9 A field , use notion Make a table , You can see the following records （ The screenshots are incomplete ）.

The guest list

After the record is clear , It is very convenient to count the number of tables at the banquet , And the number and type of rooms reserved .

What if some people can't decide immediately ？ I can only ask and urge again and again .

But there are clear records , There is no need for several people in the family to sit together and count with their fingers .

Choice of dinner Hotel , There's not much to say about this , Ask more and go to the site more .

It's easy to know whether the food at the banquet is delicious , Just have a meal in person .

If you really want to know , I don't have time to go , Just let your friends go , Or you can pay someone to try it .

Wedding Hotel , Be sure to take the other half with you when you watch , It's no use just making up your mind , You must be satisfied with both of them .

Take me for example , The wedding Hotel my mother chose , Finally, it was temporarily replaced by me and little sun , But it's just because during the epidemic , The hotel is idle , The wedding venue is recommended to be selected half a year in advance .

Besides , The whole wedding process , Every place needs money . Keep a record of some major expenses , Know where the money is going .

Too fragmentary records can be ignored directly . Preliminary statistics , My whole wedding cost 11 All around .

bills

Some details of the wedding , Like music , Ritual process , Details of the ceremony , They can all be designed by themselves , Add by yourself , Self modified .

Plus some little soul feeling , The wedding designed by yourself will move you , Only when you move yourself can you move others .

A special reminder , If there is inspiration , Be sure to write it down immediately , Then try your best to make these inspirations appear in your wedding .

inspiration

A friend got married on national day , Just post the general process of our wedding day for reference .

1. The host comes on stage
2. My aunt and father are singing to warm up the scene
3. The bridegroom appears
4. The bride appears （ Father accompanies )
5. The groom greets the bride （ Hand over with your father ）
6. Father retired for a rest
7. New people come on stage together
8. The bridegroom and bride vow （ Bridesmaids send oath cards ）
9. wedding ring （ Bridesmaids give rings ）
10. Kiss
11. The chief marriage witness （ Just one person , Brother in law ）
12. Parents come on stage
13. The bridegroom's speech （ Think ahead of time ）
14. Modified tea
15. The man's father made a speech （ Use the host's ）
16. The woman's father made a speech （ His writing ）
17. Throw a bouquet of flowers
18. Interact with the best man and bridesmaid
19. Li Cheng
20. Paper Plane

Keep memories

I haven't attended many weddings , Not more than five times .

Besides my own wedding , What moved me most was 2017 On the national day of, he participated in Big one The wedding of .

In addition to the beautiful scene arranged by yourself , It's their wedding vows , I was the best man at that time , Stand next to the groom ,

ad locum , Make a note of what I think is most important , It is also the most moving oath .

At the beginning, Xiao Sun and I decided to write the vows on the wedding scene in person , Never use the template provided by the host .

Final , The tears of the relatives at the wedding , The tears of the little sun and my tears made us feel , Write these two vows and stay up a few nights , No waste .

Post my oath

To my lover and friend little sun ：

On a formal occasion , I still like to call you little sun .

the night before last , I am still pondering over this oath , It was written and deleted , Delete and write .

If marriage is an exam , The first question baffled me .

But it was the first letter I wrote to you , The nine page letter , You promised to be with me .

But the thought of speaking in front of people seems to make me lose my language function , How to write all feel very hypocritical .

Contrary to the impression on the outside world , In the nearly three years we have been together , I am the one who confides more .

And you always listen carefully , Of course, I don't always say you listen .

We can talk too much , travel , literature 、 occupation , There are also those issues related to the background of life , We are all fortunate to reach a consensus .

I hope that in the future, we can always communicate frankly .

I used to imagine what my future partner would be like .

Little sun , You are a kind and sensitive , Have a sense of justice , Have compassion , People full of sunshine

Just like your nickname little sun , You will care about your side , Even people in society , Also often listen to others' indignation .

I saw grandma eating frozen potatoes in the Lhasa mountains , Will feel sad for a long time , Then make donations .

I like your virtues and I am often infected by you , I hope we can always keep our original intention , Live forever .

We have one 11 Five kilos of fat cat , Wangcai , He has been with us for two and a half years , It seems to be a part of our life .

Here today , I promise you , Whether we go to Dubai in the future , To Japan is to Thailand , No matter where you work , I will take it with me , Let it stay with you forever .

Because I know in your heart, except mom and Dad , The most reluctant thing is it .

Whatever it is , And no matter how much trouble , If you will , I will try to achieve .

You told me that there was a time when you didn't like and were afraid of falling in love , Because you are afraid that it is easy to lose yourself when two people are together .

I hope you feel my respect for you in the past few years .

Even if we go further into marriage today , The relationship becomes closer , You can still keep your dignity .

That being said , In fact, I know you have paid a lot for our relationship , Changed a lot .

And thanks to Xiao Sun's family , Because of your support and tolerance , We are firm at every step .

Although there are dark nights on the road of life , But having you is like the morning ！

If you can't see the sun tomorrow , I will hold you tight at the last moment .

We are lovers' friends , A lover like a friend .

You are a lover , It's a gift

thank you ！

suncle Link to oath manuscript ：

• suncle First page of the oath manuscript

• suncle The second page of the oath manuscript

I'll post the oath of the little sun

hi ～ Dear Mr. Chen

As of today , We've been together 926 God .

I think I am a very lucky person .

God let us go to a mountain and sea , Become a close friend who has nothing to say .

Buried in Lhasa snow , When death asks , You've been calling me so many times all night .

You've been with me for the past two years , Experienced my most helpless moment .

I appreciate that you understand me , But still accompany me through these challenges .

Thank you for always accommodating me , Accommodate to my work and life , From Shanghai to Guangzhou .

Indulge my little temper , Tolerate my willfulness .

Before I met you, I always felt that marriage was far away from me .

But your efforts , Your kindness makes me want to spend the rest of my life with you .

I have the honor to fall in love with you ,

Day and night go hand in hand with age ,

To light years with you .

In the future, we will punch in the golden world together .

Hello ！ My husband .

Zhouyujia

2022.5.1

Little sun oath manuscript link ：

• The first page of the little sun oath manuscript
• Little sun oath manuscript page 2

Besides the oath , And wedding videos edited by cameramen , Has been uploaded to watermelon video , You can click the link below to view .

• Wedding gags
• Matchmaking video
• Wedding video

If you don't know what to do about the wedding , Or some details of the wedding are not clear , You can talk to me anytime .

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