[life thinking] planning and self-discipline

         When I was a child, I was taught to think in other places 、 Think of others , If you are not careful, you will suppress your thoughts in disguise . Later, I found that everything has a degree , Diode thinking is not advisable , I didn't learn how to treat my ideas and needs correctly , Always on the way to meet the expectations of others , Copying other people's ways of doing things can't be adhered to , Deep in perfectionism 、 Go farther and farther on the hollow man road .

         While stressing the importance of planning , I wish someone could tell me , Know yourself , From the inside out , The foundation of customized production plan . Learn from others' time management 、 Itinerary these are appearances , It's the means , All this is not mechanically applied . If you don't know your own situation , The plan is out of the question . At this point, the customized goal / Plans are all based on what you imagine yourself to be , This type can also be classified as daydreaming . A plan that cannot connect the present , Go and buy some clothes , As if I saw the end , But I don't know how to get there .

How to transform the emotional daydream into the goal of both sensibility and reason . I want to know the definition and difference between the two . In Wikipedia , Daydreams are illusions and images that occur in the conscious mind , Usually happy thoughts 、 Hope or ambition , Sometimes it's a future scenario or plan , Or memories of the past , Just like the picture of a dream , Sometimes it will affect the mood . In the academic language of Management , A plan is a prediction of future activities 、 Arrangement and contingency handling , Its purpose is to achieve the objectives proposed , Every plan is aimed at a specific goal .

         By definition, we can roughly sum up , Daydreaming is a result scenario . The plan is to connect the current and future processes . Why do plans always fail to materialize . What factors should a plan have to avoid failure . What to follow in making a plan . It seems that no one has ever taught us how to make plans as reasonably as possible , Talking about planning , Everyone just wants a conclusion , But never talked about the process , But this topic is so common , It seems to be a simple thing like breathing .

        First , The plan usually comes from the yearning and expectation for a certain result , secondly , It requires our physical and mental recognition and willingness to pay for it , It is a waste of time not to work for it 、 Meaningless and other useless negative thoughts that hinder progress , Recognizing that achieving the goal is a time-consuming and labor-intensive step-by-step process, rather than a step-by-step process that is only willing to enjoy, announcing the brilliant achievements at that moment . here , For the first step , It is an arduous and challenging goal to realize this from the body and mind , Known target results , When the process is still to be developed .

        The second step , The purpose is to understand the current situation , Set small goals , To complete . Explore the current bottom line , What can be done effortlessly , What degree is enough feet 、 Something that can be done with a certain amount of energy . This kind of small goal is the preliminary goal , According to their ability to complete , Don't worry too much about whether it must be finished , Its target is to explore the bottom , Try your best , Don't deceive yourself , Pay attention to collecting all kinds of interference information such as the completed process . Set more formal initial goals , The quantity should not be required at this time , More attention should be paid to whether to focus on execution , And it's something that must be done , Every time you finish Chengdu, you should be proud of your commitment to yourself , This process is the initial stage of developing habits .

        The third step , In the process of habit generation , Will gradually lose the feeling of accomplishing a small goal , Gradually become dull , At this point, it means that achieving this small goal is as natural as drinking water and breathing , Although this makes us lose the feeling of passing through the barrier , But it actually bodes well . At this point, we may feel that there is no challenge to the goal that we must accomplish every day , At this time, the difficulty of the plan can be appropriately increased .

         Of course , Maybe sometimes I get used to breaking up one day , It doesn't need too much pressure , It seems that breaking once or twice is failure , This does not affect the cultivation of habits , As long as we keep moving forward , As long as you never let go, you give up completely . This goal is always on the way to success . I would also like to emphasize that , In the process , There must be ups and downs , It is possible that sometimes you feel particularly good , Today, the goal has been adjusted to a very high level , I feel bad tomorrow , Unable to concentrate , I don't want to start , Compared with yesterday, it seems to be a step backwards , But the plan we have made is always possible . So you don't need any pressure , The resistance to accomplishing something is less than the resistance to not doing it , And why not do it .

        Last , Another important point is , Enjoy every moment , It means more than just enjoying the results , And enjoy the process , The completion of a small goal in the process is the completion of your own agreement , Recognize yourself from the bottom of your heart , The young man did a good job today , Say sorry when you forget to finish , Too busy to forget , It seems that the habit is not very firm , See where you can add a few more habit trigger opportunities , Don't stop because of entanglement . Thinking about achieving the goal , Can we do anything else , Take the initiative . Every little goal accomplished / The moment of small habits , We are going to enjoy it now and continue on the road , Don't expect too much of the moment of success , Don't accumulate all the emotions of the process to the moment of the result , Success or failure , But it is also a feeling moment .

        In the eyes of outsiders, it is , ah , He is so self disciplined , You can get up so early every day 、 Exercise every day , This is the surface , Just learning other people's moves can't make you a Wulin expert , What kind of punch in software , How to arrange the schedule is not the point , What is the bottom core , What belief keeps him going , What is he willing to pay for this . In my opinion, self-discipline is just a person following his own habits , An outsider's good reputation for his behavior , The pursuit of self-discipline looks strange and twisted , There is a strange feeling that I can show others how I can regulate myself and praise me quickly , Not for self-discipline , Self discipline is just a regular way to achieve something 、 And find the most efficient performance after self practice .

         I've been cultivating a few habits recently , The above is written intermittently , Whether the logic is coherent or not , Just publish your reading and sports thoughts .